Yeah, mom is still here and no surprise, she is mad at me! It’s so juvenile I know. So I learned not to take a compulsive shopper shopping and then tell her to put things back. And I learned that two days is really enough time for a friendly visit, after that it’s downhill. Sean and I were going to take her home yesterday and on the way have a nice lunch at Ruby’s Diner. Mom figured that since her car also needs brakes, she’d hang around a few more days. We did go to the Olive Garden last night and have a nice dinner. The mistake was going to Kohl’s (and later Barnes and Noble) where they have those 60-75% off sale racks. I went to look for swimsuits as mine are old as the hills. They hardly had any left and they were still pricey. I go to find mom and she has an arm full of clothes. You can have discussions galore with people like her and she just wants to spend. I also see her personality change in a store, even a crappy store like a Dollar Store. She had two of the same tops in different sizes, two pairs of slacks, a jacket and another top that was the same as the two she already had but in pink. I made her try the jacket on at the checkout (as it was the most pricey item) which she said was embarrassing and it was too big all over for her. She ended up saving about $30. Now she had just bought things in Peebles the day before. She said I can’t take her to stores and not expect her to buy things when Sean and I were. I guess, but she had just borrowed money from me and there she was wanting to spend a chunk of it on clothes she doesn’t need. She has 4 bedrooms in her house and all of the closets except two contain clothing. And that’s not even mentioning the Rubbermaid containers of clothing.
So today she is ignoring me and I have to go to the dentist in a few hours. This makes me a bit anxious. I had a 10:40 appointment, but Dr. B figures he’ll need more time with me, so I got bumped to 2:40. I probably would have taken mom home.
Thanks for lending an ear. I guess some people just can’t stand hearing the truth. I’ll keep you posted.
And thanks to Su for the adorable house fob she sent my way yesterday. It’s in a place of honor on my special cross stitch tree.
Update-I had to get a filling in the bothersome tooth and was gone from 2:30-4:00. I came in and my mom didn’t ask what was wrong. She came to the doorway of the family room where I was numb to the gills and announced she wanted to go home after dinner. Things kinda blew up and I went out to make a nice dinner. She got on the phone and started crying to my brother and then he wanted to talk to me. To make a long story short, Sean had to take her home with no dinner in his belly and just ate it at 7:00. So I don’t know what to do about her and she doesn’t remember things and makes them ten times as worse in her brain. Yes, company and fish stink after 3 days, thanks Vonna and Ben!
Sympathetic hugs, Dianne! Aging parents are not easy to deal with.
Mmmhmmm. Sounds familiar. My mom says my Grams (her mom) was the same way about compulsive spending. When she got Alzheimers and mom could no longer take care of her, she carried a little pouch in the nursing home with pennies in it so she could “buy” things. It was both sweet and sad. You did the right thing in making her put things back, even if she didn’t appreciate your care and concern.
Ben Franklin said it best, “Fish and Visitors stink in 3 days”
I always tell this to my Mom when she wants us all to stay longer than a weekend. We’re all ready to go home after 48 hours 🙂
LOL over Vonna’s comment. I think she has it right.
I do hope your evening is going better.
Glad the fob has arrived safe and sound. Sorry to hear that you and your mum have had a fall out ((HUGS))